Saturday, October 2, 2010

I wrote this post because I'm a woman.

I don't often use this blog as a platform to speak with my husband, because frankly, I rarely ever stop speaking to him except when he's actually at work and doesn't answer his phone.  I text him all the time.  I call him to share my grocery list with him.  I email him. I leave notes written with lipstick, all over the bathroom mirror. I poke him on Facebook.  I take photographs of him.  I touch his arm constantly.  (I come from a very long line of maternal women, and we touch people, pat them, rub their arms, hug them.  I can't help it.)  Anyway, I have a feeling that I'm not alone in the following situation, and I'd like to share it with you, because really, it's all in very good fun.  Yet true.  But not really.  Only a little. Sometimes.  Like today.
 I believe life is about embracing each decision you make, and moving forward, full speed ahead, never wavering for a moment to look back and think, "If only."  So when I deliberated for an entire year about the decision to cut bangs and finally decided in the affirmative, I didn't look back.  Because I'm not a looking back with regrets kinda gal.

The only problem, is that my husband, has never actually said the words, "Your-bangs-are-totally-cute-why-the-heck-did-you-wait-an-entire-year-on-such-a-clear-no-brainer-decision-for-heaven's-sake?!." 

And of course he's said they are cute indirectly, but really, he only said I was cute...so it doesn't count, because that wasn't a new compliment.  (Not that I'm complaining about my man saying that I'm cute often enough to consider it an old compliment. You know what I mean...)  Plus, he only said it after I asked him directly about if he liked my bangs or not.

And every woman worth her salt knows that if you ask a man a direct question, he's never going to tell you what he really thinks! (Can I get an amen?) So now the entire compliment has to get thrown completely out the window.

And Adrain, if you're reading this right now, don't come home and say "Your-bangs-are-totally-cute-why-the-heck-did-you-wait-an-entire-year-on-such-a-clear-no-brainer-decision-for-heaven's-sake," and then pretend you came up with the idea, all on your own.  Because you didn't!  And don't think kissing me in the kitchen will change it either, mister!

Okay.  Well it might change it a tiny bit....

But now you can't, because I just gave you that idea too.

I think these thoughts because I'm a woman.  And that's all the excuse I need.

Good night.





(I will announce the winners of the giveaway in the next post, so if you haven't entered, you still have time!)

22 comments:

  1. Giggling.
    I think you two are great.

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  2. they just don't get it I tell ya. I go through it ALL.THE.Time. Then he says"I did say that" and I say "no you didn't, you said this..." and yada yada. ANyhow, I like the bangs, been debating them myself for about ayear, haven't jumped yet!

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  3. Oh girl you are cute bangs or no bangs. SO THERE! Even my mom thinks so...she's standing over my shoulder:) And amen to the men not answering questions directly. Honey is notorious for that!

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  4. It's your blog and you can vent if you want to.. ;)

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  5. I must confess! I just read this to my husband because it sounds JUST like me. We both laughed hysterically! Too stinkin' funny. BTW, I think you are rockin' your bangs! So super cute!!!!
    Lindsay
    http://bomanpartyof5.blogspot.com

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  6. Farmgirl Paints just said you look cute bangs or no bangs. Exactly what I said. It sounds sweet coming from Becky but when I say it I'm avoiding the question. I can't help the fact that I have seen you with exactly 39 different hairstyles in our young marriage (from short and black to long and blond) and thought that you looked hot in each and every one of them. I thought you looked great without bangs and I think you look great with bangs and will work to give and unsolicited complement in the near future. Now, I hope you are standing in the kitchen because I am going to come kiss you.

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  7. Farmgirl Paints just said you look cute bangs or no bangs. Exactly what I said. It sounds sweet coming from Becky but when I say it I'm avoiding the question. I can't help the fact that I have seen you with exactly 39 different hairstyles in our young marriage (from short and black to long and blond) and thought that you looked hot in each and every one of them. I thought you looked great without bangs and I think you look great with bangs and will work to give and unsolicited complement in the near future. Now, I hope you are standing in the kitchen because I am going to come kiss you.

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  8. Lol* I think that was an adorable post, and I completely relate! ;)

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  9. I am sure you look great with or without bangs..but I think bangs probably shape your face the best!

    yep...we all have men that are afraid to tell us the total honest truth about things like hair and butts looking big and so on and so forth! :)

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  10. You get a big AMEN from me! I feel the same way. It's like the other day when I asked Tim if he liked my shirt and he just kind of looked at me and turned his head funky. Obviously he hates it! haha. You two are adorable! Love that picture of you!

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  11. Oh - LOVE the comment from your sweet man - he's a romantic!

    AND...Love your bangs - you're adorable!

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  12. What woman can't relate to this post? I don't think my husband would even realize I had cut bangs. But I know he thinks i'm beautiful, just as your husband thinks you are too! By the way, I truly do love your bangs. I think they look great! What took you so long:)?

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  13. They are totally cute! I know what you mean. I chopped off all my hair and went with an uber short pixie....call it a " I can not control what is going on with a few things in my life so will cut off my hair cut" ( explained in blog from this past Tuesday and yesterday) AND hubby , FIVE days and not a word, not one. I could not take it, so asked him and he said that he liked it....but it did not have the same impact...so I understand.

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  14. Oh my goodness, I'm not sure who's post was cuter, yours or Adrian's comment. What a sweetie. Did he find you in the kitchen? :) A yes or no will suffice, no further details needed :)

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  15. AMEN!
    By the way...The bangs are cute, but I don't think you could ever go wrong with your hair because you have a beautiful face and an even more beautiful spirit.

    Happy Sunday,

    Robin~♥

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  16. that's right chicka! I just got my hair all gussied up too! and neal didn't even notice and I got the you look cute all the time thing too... and you're right! It just doesn't cut it!

    And now I'm going to have to go down stairs and stand in awe of the amazing job that he's done putting speaker wire in the walls.

    then i will make him tell me he loves my bangs. :)

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  17. Your bangs look great! My bff just cut hers too. I'll have to remember to ask if her husband noticed.

    : )

    Julie M.

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  18. This post made me laughing! I dolored my hair once (from blonde to a bronze/red shade) and the only comment I got was: "Why did you pay $60 on a hairstyle? I can't see any difference...

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  19. too funny
    i love your bright cheerful cutiepatootie posts
    all of them
    you rock
    xo

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  20. Amen......

    I just love your sense of humor. You make me smile.

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  21. yes the cute...compliments oh dear! completely understand but I am sure they look great on you!!!

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