Monday, March 14, 2011

Hey, do you remember that one time?

During our first year of marriage, Adrain was applying for some financial aid. As he handed over his personal information, he was asked for his birth certificate. He promptly got on the phone and asked his mother to send it asap. Which she did. And bless his heart, Adrain had never paid much attention to the fact that he had been born in Canada. His mother was a U.S. citizen, but had had him on foreign soil. When he took that certificate in to the financial powers that be, they told him to show them his proof of citizenship. He was surprised, given that he had lived in the U.S., nearly his entire life after being born, but began pulling cards out of his wallet. He showed them his selective service card, his social security card, driver’s license, and miscellaneous other cards. They laughed at him and told him that he needed something official.

Thus began a six year journey to get Adrain naturalized. It wasn’t just a simple process of adjusting his status via his mother, because the year he was born, there was some law about her not being able to have a child on foreign soil and claim him as a citizen unless she was past a certain age. Which she wasn’t. We were shocked to discover the process is expensive, frustrating, and long. I was pregnant with my second daughter the day I watched my man raise his right hand, and take the oath of citizenship, a Canadian no longer.

Over time,  Adrain worked his way up in his company. He had some really incredible years, where the economy was booming, and so was his territory. In fact, he even earned a couple of trips to far-off, exotic places. We even went on one of them.  I realize I can’t make a statement like that, and not take a rabbit trail. And by now, I’m sure you’ve realized that my world is pretty much one rabbit trail, after another. The trip we did end up taking, was to Maui, Hawaii. (Which is where I committed my first felony, of stealing sand.) It was a dreamy, company-funded, five day break from a two and four year old. The trip we didn’t take was a story all its own, the year before...

I had never been on an airplane in my entire life. Because Adrain and I got married so young, we didn’t have a honeymoon. We weren’t complaining, but vacations are even more scarce when you have little ones. We’d nearly clocked ten years of wedded bliss by this point, so when Adrain had a record-breaking year, and earned a trip to the Bahamas, we were both ecstatic. We went all out, preparing for it. We went tanning, got into better shape, and I got manicures and pedicures. We purchased a few new items to wear, and we researched all the places we wanted to see for months, ahead of time. We carefully planned babysitting, creating a special goody bag for the babies, one for each day we would be gone.
At the time, there was no law that a passport was needed, in order to fly to the Bahamas. All that was required, was a birth certificate. After the six-year ordeal over citizenship, we definitely had those, and made sure to pack them.
Early, the morning of our trip, we kissed our sleeping babies and my parents good bye. Then we happily raced to the airport. We were to take a half hour flight, to a larger airport to meet our connecting flight. It was a very small plane, but I was hopped up on tropical anticipation, so I didn’t worry. As we bumped along, I sipped some orange juice, thinking thoughts like, “In six hours, I’m going to be sitting on white sand.” (Occasionally, I thought about things like, “I hope the kids are good for mom and dad.”)

We landed, and grabbed our bags. As we went to get our boarding passes for the “big plane,” the airline employee asked for our birth certificates. We proudly dug them out of our bags, and handed them over. My mind was silently screaming, “Do you know where I’m going lady? I’m going to the Bahamas! I’m going to stay at the Atlantis, and swim with dolphins, and it’s not going to cost us a dime because I’m married to the best man in the universe! Wheee!”
She looked over our documents, and frowned when she came to mine. “Excuse me,” she said, interrupting my mental cheering. “Your passport doesn’t have a raised seal. It only has a stamp. I can’t accept this.” That was all she said, as she pushed it across the shiny countertop in my direction. There had to be some mistake. My thoughts were racing in a near panic, because I had presented this exact same birth certificate when my husband became a naturalized U.S. citizen, years before. The government had never questioned it, so it wasn’t possible that some airline employee was. Only she was. And she was flatly refusing to converse further with us about it. She directed us to the customs department, that wasn’t open yet, due to the early hour. We waited, sure we were going to miss our fight. (My second airplane trip, ever if you counted the tiny little plane I’d just exited. My trip to a place! I couldn’t miss going to a place! I’d waited all my life to go to a place!)

Well, we never did get to go to that place. The dolphins swam without us, as we rented a car and drove back home. I cried all the way home. When we arrived, it was business as usual, and I was Mommy again. I closed all the curtains and cried some more. I was upset because Adrain had worked so hard the previous year, only to miss out. People consoled us with, “God must not have wanted you to go on that trip for some reason…” I’m still not speaking to those people. (I kid.)
The next year, Adrain worked even harder, earning that trip to Maui. I didn’t believe it was happening until I set foot on the sand, and someone put a lei around my neck. Then I cut loose and had some fun!

Tonight, our buyer backed out completely on us, leaving us back at square one, on the market, with no contingency.  She decided she didn't want to try and sell her property or whatever afterall.

After getting this news, I asked Adrain if he remembered that one time... that one time when we got so excited only to rent a car and drive back home.

That's kind of how I feel tonight.  I'm really hoping there's a "trip to Maui" on our horizon. 

51 comments:

  1. i am so so sorry sasha.
    that really stinks.
    i just watched the podcast of the other week when grant talked about getting your hands up. we're here (your blog sisters) and ready to help hold your hands up. please know that you're not alone.

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  2. Oh Sasha, I am so sorry. I am praying for you guys and know, trust and believe that God has something wonderful...better than you imagined...perfect for you and your family. lots of love and hugs.

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  3. I'm so sorry, Sasha. I can't imagine your disappointment. I am one of those people who gets my hopes up WAY too high and then I am devistated when it doesn't happen the way I wanted it to (and I tend to act a little ugly...)
    Things like this kinda make you wish you could see into the future...just a little ;)
    We have been on the market for a month with not one showing. I'm discouraged because I am so ready to decorate our next home (noble reason for being discouraged, I know ;) I can't imagine being packed up and ready to close on my new home only to go through all that you guys have. I'll be praying for you, you're such an inspiration!

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  4. I am so sorry to hear that! I totally believe God has something amazing planned. Just wait and see!

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  5. I am so sorry. Wow... what a roller coaster of emotions you have been on. I don't know what the future holds, but I know God has something amazing planned, and will be praying for your peace as you continue on. Hugs to you.

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  6. Oh my goodness, I didn't read the previous comments before I posted mine, so how crazy is it that Patty and I said the exact same thing???

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  7. Oh Sasha, what a disappointment. I can't say I am sorry that God is testing you, but it sure is making things difficult. He would only test you if there was indeed a trip to Maui in your future.

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  8. 1. I am SO sorry that the buyer backed out!! I am sure that God has just the right person out there who is going to come along at just the right time.

    2. Oh I understand what happened with the Bahamas trip. I arrived at the airport years ago, husband and kids in tow, ready to get on a plane to Mexico only to be denied because my birth certificate didn't have a raise seal (that was when you could still go to Mexico using just your birth certificate). They rescheduled us on a later flight but I didn't think we would make that one cuz I wouldn't be able to resolve the whole certificate problem. Went home to figure out what to do. After multiple calls we discovered that I could use a voter registration card to get in and out of the country. SO we drove all the way into Cleveland to the Voter board where they issued me a card and I then went to the airport and got on the plane. And when I got home I got a passport.

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  9. I am so sorry. I have no words that will sooth the disappointment and sadness. I pray that this rollercoaster of emotions will smooth out soon.

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  10. Everyone said such nice things in the comments section. So ditto, and the only thing I can add is "Well, crap!" I know, not nice but it seems appropriate.

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  11. I am really sorry about your house. That sucks!

    I am a Canadian and love this country, have you ever been here? You should visit sometime, you might change your mind.

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  12. Sasha,

    I'm so sorry that you have to go through this...quite frankly, I'm impressed that you can reach back into that memory and find that Bahama time where you felt similarly...I have a tendency to try to forget stuff like that. You will get through it now like you did...you make lemonade out of lemons, remember? Blessings and happy thoughts!!

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  13. I'm sad to hear your news. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. You are strong! Look on the bright side, now you can decorate your beautiful house for spring!! :-)

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  14. that totally sucks, sasha!!! really really bad! BUT if it does turn out like your story, you'll be baking cookies in a new cottage in no time :) hang in there, girlie. He knows what's going on. He hasn't forgotten you.

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  15. so sorry!! i'm sure something even better than Maui is on the horizen.

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  16. Oh, hon, I'm sorry! The last four weeks have been one bit of disappointing news after another for our family, so my heart is right there with you. Here's to hoping there are Maui's around the corner for each of us!

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  17. Bless your sweet heart, girl! I am so sorry. But I love your attitude. Right now might be really poopy, but the pooper scooper is on it's way! (Yeah, I liked your Maui on the horizon metaphor better...) Hang in there, girl. You know our God is good.

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  18. oh sasha, i'm really truly sorry for what has happened. hang in there and just try to remember that god has a GOOD plan for all of us that love him!!

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  19. That totally stinks. So sorry to hear the news. Praying for you and your family!

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  20. Oh Sasha that's awful, I've loved every minute of your journey and I know that Heavenly Father has something great planned for your family.

    I'll keep you in my prayers - keep your faith and family close and know this too shall pass.

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  21. Oh there's a trip to Maui girlie - there really is...

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  22. I'm so sorry. I'm sure there will be something much better for you in the future. I'll keep praying for ya!

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  23. So sorry but God never closes a door without opening a window..can't wait to see what He has in store for you and yours..it's coming!

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  24. Oh my goodness, I am so so sorry. I know you must be sad and confused and fustrated. I will be praying for your situation. I am absolutely certain God has the BEST in store you you.

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  25. I'm so sorry! You're sure being tested. I hope your "Maui" comes soon!

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  26. If nothing else, maybe that "trip" to the Bahamas happened to help you through this ordeal! I love following your journey, it's all going to work out girl!

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  27. That really stinks about your buyer. Another one will come along, but until then I want to send you a virtual hug because I know the disappointment can sting.

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  28. Oh, Girl.

    God is really ramping up the suspense for you guys. It's gonna be THAT good. I promise.

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  29. I'm crying for you this time.

    Love.

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  30. We pray for wisdom
    Your voice to hear
    And we cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
    We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love
    As if every promise from Your Word is not enough
    All the while, You hear each desperate plea
    As long as we'd have faith to believe

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  31. Oh NOOOOO!!!! I am so sorry to read this. What a disappointment. I'm praying that things turn around, quickly.

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  32. Sometimes our journeys are so confusing... and hard... and frustrating... and it is harder to trust and harder to surrender and harder to hope for Maui at the end of the year!! =) I hope that you find peace and find that place of total trust and surrender as you Wait!! I have been on roads like that many o times... still am really...

    and isn't it funny that you married a Canadian and didn't even know it!?! he he... we have done the expensive crossing borders thing twice... once without babies...once with... if we had waited 2 more years it would have been much harder to naturalize our children here!! anyway... it was a small blessing at the time in the midst of many other hurdles! =)

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  34. Other doors are going to open for you. I'm sorry you're feeling this heart break right now. I'll be praying for God to reveal His plan for you and the house situation.

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  35. So sorry. It must be hugely disappointing and frustrating. I will be praying.

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  36. Crying right along with you tonight! My heart was so sad to read that last paragraph. Praying the Lord moves your family exactly when and where He wants, hopefully soon!! : )

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  37. I'm so sorry. Your story and the grace with which you deal with it is reaching out to someone right now. My best friend just had a house fall through today -the closing day-and she is heart broken. I'm sending her to read your story. You will be used and God is preparing your suite in Maui!!!

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  38. Oh, that's awful! I'm praying for a buyer for you. Tomorrow! Or at least ASAP. Preferably one that can pay cash and wants posession in a week (or whatever would be the best situation for you).

    Thanks for sharing your stories about the trips.

    ~Joanna (a Canadian)

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  39. What a tough day you've been through! But ... what a tender, sweet, thoughtful post ... thank you! You are in my prayers this evening. May the Lord who cares about the sparrow wrap His loving arms around you and give you His great peace!

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  40. Oh nooo . . . I am so sorry, but I know there is a trip to Maui coming up for you . . . I know with all my heart. For some reason, I have this song going through my head a lot lately . . .

    Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
    Look full in His wonderful face,
    And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
    In the light of His glory and grace.

    You have such a good attitude about this, Sasha, and I know that God is going to bless you.

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  41. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) 4 sasha.
    god never closes a bahamas without opening a maui.
    im praying you find your maui.
    be at peace girl, he's got this.

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  43. oh that really stinks. sooo sorry. :(

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  44. awwww i feel so bad for you. i know that everyone probably has already said that there is something or a bigger underlying reason as to why this happened, and most likely you will never know. however, just keep the faith and 'know' in your heart that when the time is right, it will happen. big hugs to you!!!

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  45. Praying for God to comfort you and give you peace. "All things work together for good..." hopefully that will be soon! Be blessed.

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  46. As I looked out our kitchen window this morning and contemplated our decision to sell our home soon for much the same reasons as your family it seems, I said a prayer that God would bless you with the selling of your home very soon and for you to be filled with His peace and joy. Hope He throws in a tropical vacation too! Melanie

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  47. Wow..... So very sorry they backed out!

    Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future!

    God is still in Control!

    Nancy

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  48. That does stink, sweet lady--but God has a plan and it is so much better than you or I could even imagine.

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  49. ): That trip to Maui IS coming sweet lady! It's coming gosh darnit!! I can feel it for you guys!

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