People email me frequently asking for thoughts on blogging and being "out there." I normally share that I once struggled because I read more than 100 blogs a day. I felt like I had to comment on every single one of them. I felt like I needed to respond back to everyone who reached out to me, and I gave it my all. As I'm sure you can imagine, there wasn't much left for my family after weeding through bursting in boxes for hours on end, and I knew something was going to have to give. I was trying to grow my blog because I really did hope to one day use it for an income that would help my little family... and my intentions were good.
I quickly realized that there is only so much of yourself you can give away with no boundaries intact. Pretty soon you're a dried up well, and the ones closest to you often suffer. I know that's what happened in my case. Blogging became a sort of idol, the first thing in my thoughts. So a few years ago, after this realization, I backed away and put up a lot of boundaries for myself with all of this social media. I'll be honest, it was very difficult for me to break that hold. Not reading all the blogs of wonderful people that I "knew" but didn't KNOW was awful. I felt like I was letting them down somehow. (They were surely counting on my comment that day, weren't they?) And of course, if I didn't comment on their blog... they would soon stop commenting on mine. Oh no!
I am very relational and I hated to think that anyone was being upset by this.
Grace for grace. If you come here but seldom leave a comment... it's okay. If you don't subscribe... it's okay. If you subscribe but some days have such a full inbox that you just delete without reading... it's okay. If you don't relate to something I'm talking about or simply don't like to comment... it's okay.
Now, am I saying that I don't care about your feedback? No way. Not at all! I love hearing what you say!! Your comments also kind of keep me on track for what kind of "conversations" you are enjoying with me. And yes, I do look at this blog as a sort of conversation with you. I love that you stopped and read. And if you were willing and/or able to take a minute to write something down in my comments, I not only appreciate and read each word, I view it as though you stopped and left a little piece of your heart here for me. It meant something to me and I appreciate you so much!! Sadly my immediate family are my main priority, and because they are a lot of work, I can't always answer questions or respond the way I'd like to. I really don't like that part. I'd love to have two of me sometimes.
The point is, as we do life, work, run errands, raise families, get involved in many causes etc, social media can feel like one more thing on a very full plate. I know someone out there is nodding her head. Life is hectic for each one of us... I very much understand if you just breeze in and out of this site most of the time. Say hi when you can or if you want to, and don't feel any pressure from me about following any "rules." You make the social media connection between you and I work for you, with my blessing.
face to face relationships. Many of the people I know in real life have been able to easily and effortlessly keep up with this small Cliff Notes version of my life via social media... and that's awesome for them... but it's left me feeling pretty lonesome in real life and wishing that I had someone out there to share my complete life picture with, and visa versa. Because obviously, relationships are a two-way street.
I would love to hear about your journey and thoughts with this, as we all live in the same social media driven world.
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Today I am thankful for:
An ice cream maker.
Sheets fluttering outside on the line.
Flank steak marinating for dinner.