Friday, November 14, 2014

The tides of relationships.

Sweet friends... have you been thinking that I had fallen off the face of the planet lately?  I promise I haven't.  I have been rushing around with life, gazing longingly at the computer, and so missing our chats. 

The other day I was about 20 minutes early to pick my daughter up from ballet.  Normally I would just sit in my car and wait for her, but I happened to see one of my nieces walking around in the lobby all by herself and I jumped out of the car and busted right in to see her.  She was waiting for my cousin to come get her (I know, she's not really my niece.  Whatevs.  I'm still "Auntie Sasha".) Anyhow, I got a giant hug from her and I said, "Emma, let's have a little date while we wait!  I'll buy you a treat to drink and you can tell me all about 4th grade life." She rewarded me with a beaming smile and exuberant "YES!"  So we did.  We belly laughed about buffalo, (you kind of had to be there) and she told me about her favorite subject (art) and friends, and what she wanted for Christmas, and American girl dolls, and how she felt about this and that, and it was fantastic.  We told corny thanksgiving jokes and knock knock jokes to each other, and that 20 minutes was precious, all for the price of my time and a berry smoothie with whipped cream.  

That funneled me into thinking about all my relationships, not just the adult ones.  They all matter because these little people will grow up and I want to know them just as well as the adults they will one day become! So, on Friday after school, I met my kids at the front door with gingerbread men from Trader Joes and a movie (A Big Year- LOVED this movie...) all cued up on the tv. We just ditched backpacks to be dealt with later and cuddled and laughed and made memories. It didn't cost me anything but my time and a box of cookies and it was truly delightful.  

Relationships matter.  Every single one of them, even the ones that are no longer, for one reason or another.  I've had my share of those this year and though it has been a hard lesson in boundaries (I'm not so great with those) and priorities and not going on Facebook, (somebody knows what I'm talking about) I've learned that bitterness is a hard battle but SO worth fighting against when a friend hurts you.  Whenever a relationship is removed, it seems that God has a plan for a different one and I've definitely seen blessings in trusting Him for that.  The only way to do any relationship whether it's coming or going, is to put on love.  Love is a shield against bitterness after hurt, and love is a motivator with friendships, yet in the bud-stage, waiting for time to flower them. It always kind of comes down to loving others, doesn't it?  Love no matter the cost.  What would this world be like if everyone did that?

{Colossians 3:13-14 The Message} 
"So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. 
Never be without it."
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One of the things I have been working hard on, is a small winter collection for my shop.  I SO hope you love these as much as I do.  Each one is special to me and I love to think that some of them might grace your holiday homes or become special gifts for loved ones! {Click here to shop}


  1. Oh Friend... you are SO right - on all points!

    I am inspired by your mini date~ I had one last night with all nine kiddos, some candy cane dark chocolate, a movie, and sleepover in the living room :-) The little things are what life is made of.

    Also in those friendships I've had to relinquish, I have to remember there was a heap of reasons why I loved "that" friend, and that if we share our love for Jesus, there will one day be an eternity to enjoy a perfect friendship - even if it's not possible today.

    Beautiful prints Sasha. I love them all!


  2. Oh, preach! I recently even deactivated facebook because I didn't have the willpower to not read the hurtful things being said. Not about me, but about someone I love, and by someone we thought was a friend. God has been leading me to verse after verse on forgiveness, I love how he tries to prepare my heart if I will only listen. Your post is filled with wisdom- such a blessing. HUgs!

  3. I have been learning hard but good lessons in this same area recently. It is hard to realize certain friendships were only for a season and that season has ended. On the flip side, I've also seen God strengthen and deepen other relationships in a way that can only be from Him.
    Thanks for sharing this encouraging post! It's always nice to know someone knows where you're coming from.

  4. I JUST wrote about letting go of a friendship today. I appreciate the reminder to love. I deactivated FB years ago and it has been such a blessing to not know. I love how I haven't met you but we seem to get each other. Thank you for that:)))

  5. What a lucky girl to have had those precious moments with her auntie. It's difficult when folks don't see eye-to-eye, but it's all part of our growth. Kudos to you for moving on with a peaceful heart. It's all about the love we share, that's really all that matters in this world. Blessings...

  6. A couple days ago, I had an experience with a stranger that left me wondering, "", but your reference, Colossians 3:13-14 The Message, answered those questions. Thanks!
    What a fun treat your visit must have been to your niece. She will hold those precious moments with her always as will your kiddos. THOSE are the things they will remember and help mold them into the sweet, loving people they are becoming. What a great couple days for you as well!

  7. Friendship can be a tricky thing... I'm so sorry you've been hurt, but am so thankful that you are the kind of person that chooses to put on LOVE. You are a shiny, lovey person, and that makes me so happy to know you! xo ~Sally

  8. Thank you for sharing this story. As holidays approach and we recall the events of the last year, it's good to remember to "put on love." Moving forward after a friend has hurt you isn't easy but acknowledging that there's a greater plan certainly helps. xo, Kimberly

  9. I just wrote this to another friend recently. About how I have learned in my WISE OL' 40 years. ;) That whether people say or do things TO you, it has nothing to do WITH you. Even if it hurts, even if it cuts to the core of your insecurities and weaknesses. It isn't yours. It is something that is inside them coming out and the best thing to do it to forgive their weaknesses and allow them the space to figure it out. And that space is what you need to.

    Sorry to hear you are going through these tough times. Glad you are doing it with grace.