Thursday, April 2, 2015

Bits...

Good morning my peeps.  I'm making this a quick one because I've got a hectic day and weekend ahead of me!  I love this weekend- Easter.  We host events twice over the next four days and I'm thrilled about that.  We just finished wrapping up one of the five family birthdays we have between March and April, last weekend.  Joe turned 14 which is totally weird since I remember turning 14 so vividly and I felt like an adult! 

He wouldn't let me share any photos of himself...  Nobody will anymore!  When I started blogging in 2008 that wasn't an issue.  I got sunny smiles all the time.  Now- they say "You can take the photo but don't show it to anyone and don't Instagram it!!"  And then they check it on the bus with their friends and friends phones since neither of them have smart phones.  And it's weird and cool at the same time, that they do that... and that their friends follow me on Instagram.  (Hi Kids!)

Anyway, our house has a tradition of waking the birthday person up with a candle-lit cupcake and a really tune-deaf version of "Happy Birthday."  Joe is so predictable I almost don't even ask anymore.  It's always the same.  Carrot cake, rootbeer etc.  This year was walking tacos for dinner- (If you don't know what that is, you take a bag of doritos and kind of crunch it up, then spoon all your taco fixing right into the bag and eat them out of the bag, with a fork.  The bag is essentially your taco shell.) They were a huge hit.  And I realized that the only requirement for making a teenage boy's birthday successful is plenty of food, soda and the wii for hours on end.   I think we are all still recovering. Ha!

Joe doesn't like a big fuss of decorations and pretty plates and such but I don't care... I wrapped all his gifts in wood grain and black and gray papers and got him black and white balloons and cute straws regardless of how he felt.  I tried to make things more manly by putting things into galvanized buckets that I've acquired throughout the past few years. They work for so many things!  He seemed pleased but I think he was more excited about his new electric guitar amp.  (He saved up and bought himself an electric guitar and I'll have to add a video clip of his playing one of these days.  It's starting to sound really good!)







 This year my family's side couldn't make it (they were bumping down the road to my Grammy's funeral) but Adrain's side all represented and we had a rousing game of sibling dominoes with a score card that is still unfinished. 

I was heartbroken about missing my Grammy's funeral but I just couldn't make it work- we had wrestling tournaments and award banquets and birthday plans and we would have had to miss all of those things that matter very much to my son.  I couldn't have gone alone and not been there when he woke up on his birthday.  Who would have told him the story of the day he was born?  Flying was out of the question as its crazy expensive to fly into Montana... we used up all of our air miles to fly in and see her a few weeks ago right before she passed anyway.  It was just sad all around and I was trying to be all celebratory but feeling all these emotions at the same time. Plus, Hello... I have a 14 year old son! What?!

Such is the heart of a Mama, isn't it?  I think about all the times things were made special for me as a kid and who knows what was happening in my Mama's heart, God bless her. 

So, now we head into Easter.  What are your plans? 
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6 comments:

  1. You are beautiful, my friend! I'm sorry you missed your Grammy's funeral, but am thankful that you were able to spend a final few minutes of her life with her. She'd understand the priorities of being a fully present and awesome mama for your 14 year old boy. Isn't it crazy? My big girl is nearly 15 and my oldest son just hit 13. Two teenagers under my roof and I DO remember those days myself! I have an 11 and 9 year old following close behind. It goes fast and being here when it matters for our kids is what it's all about. Happy birthday to your big guy. Blessed Easter to you. And many cyber hugs. xoxox

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  2. Always sound so fun at your house!!!!

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  3. Love how you celebrate birthdays, makes them feel super special I'm sure! Take comfort in seeing your Grandmother while she was still alive and she knew you were there. Easter blessings!

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  4. Oh, their growing-up, it's a rollercoaster, isn't it? The 'easier' of now mixed in with the 'harder' in pretty equal measure. The needing you, and the 'not needing you' (which is really a different form of needing you, if only we all knew it); The emotions, the preferences, the self-consciousness to keep track of, while simultaneously coping with so almost-weekly change yourself plus a much larger world than is on their horizon.
    I love the way you did Joe's party, looks perfect for his age and your aesthetic sense ;)
    You did the right thing, although I can understand your heartbreak at missing the funeral. Three days ago I was at a funeral at the same chapel where my Gran's funeral was held, 17 years ago. I was physically present at her funeral, but mentally and emotionally I was mostly taken up with the impending birth of my first child just a couple of weeks later. Being there again made me wonder what I had 'missed', but really, I know that it's the memories and what I learnt from my Gran that matter more than the service and those weeks around her death.
    Keep plugging on, my friend!

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  5. Oh, their growing-up, it's a rollercoaster, isn't it? The 'easier' of now mixed in with the 'harder' in pretty equal measure. The needing you, and the 'not needing you' (which is really a different form of needing you, if only we all knew it); The emotions, the preferences, the self-consciousness to keep track of, while simultaneously coping with so almost-weekly change yourself plus a much larger world than is on their horizon.
    I love the way you did Joe's party, looks perfect for his age and your aesthetic sense ;)
    You did the right thing, although I can understand your heartbreak at missing the funeral. Three days ago I was at a funeral at the same chapel where my Gran's funeral was held, 17 years ago. I was physically present at her funeral, but mentally and emotionally I was mostly taken up with the impending birth of my first child just a couple of weeks later. Being there again made me wonder what I had 'missed', but really, I know that it's the memories and what I learnt from my Gran that matter more than the service and those weeks around her death.
    Keep plugging on, my friend!

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  6. Sasha - I just love how you open your heart to readers like me. It sure has a way of connecting people who have never even met or talked. I feel that I know you and your family and that if I called with some heart ache you wouldn't hesitate and would just listen and love. Thank you for being you and for sharing so much on your blog. Even though your kids don't like you sharing about "them", the story you share that is yours and your family's is so special. Thank you.

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