Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Becoming Minimal...

Apparently I've become an occasional blogger.  At least that's what I recently edited my Instagram profile to say! (@lemonademakinmama) I'd like to make blogging more of a regular thing though, because I've got so much inside of me that I'd like to share.

As time has passed, especially since my daddy died, I see changes in my life that I'm happy about.  One of them has been the reinforced value that things are simply that... "things."  I've been on the mission to downsize our life and home for a few years now and goodness knows I've bashed those words around this site non-stop... I think that's an awesome thing though, so zero apologies here.  I've shared about becoming a minimalist with my clothing, shoes, jewelry and accessories.  Gosh I breathe easier as I type that.  It brings freedom deep into my bones.

And I suppose that is where I'm taking this blog, into the future.  The freedom of less.  I recently wrote on Instagram that I'm making room for more and more "LESS." Deep exhale.  As I work in homes, organizing their belongings, I walk into my own home and think daily, about what I don't actually need. Then I get rid of it.  It's honestly that simple.  Though it can seem so complicated somehow.  It isn't! On the front end, it stops me from the spending habits that had defined my entire life until a couple of years ago.  They were mostly impulsive, joyful, yet thoughtless.  Now they are few, careful, and needed overall.  It of course, all began with the clothing, after years of striving for change.  It's honestly a type of bondage and it was holding me back.

I believe what has spring-boarded this mission in my own heart, has been social media.  I had a moment this month (and perhaps you've been here) where I looked around my feed and every home basically looked the exact same way to me!  All were honestly, and I'm sorry to say, though I'm not pointing fingers... overdone.  Just surface after surface so artfully styled within an inch of it's little life, with groupings of things, that I wanted to walk into each home and clear off just ONE of those gorgeous surfaces. Let it breathe! All had the same basic look, as most of their belongings had all been purchased at the same popular shops, and there were simply too many words on every overcrowded wall. And this, coming from a girl who loves groupings of cuteness and words on the walls. I DO! But.  But oh my!  

It's chaos out there people.  And it's making us bring more chaos into our homes and making us think chaos is normal and that we need that one more thing from that most recent collection from that one store we all love, to add to our own personal chaos and our spending is out of control and our stress is too high and our closets are stuffed.  (Well mine aren't, but it's taken time to get myself there so no judgement, just acknowledgement.)

I'll tell you what I did.  I clicked unfollow on over two hundred "identical" accounts.  I know.  It's crazy, and yet I've never been afraid of being bold with my social media. Hello, closed LMM account from years gone by!  As I try to jump back into blogging more and more, I'd like to show how I've made my own changes, but what keeps me cautious, is the idea that I'm not fully a minimalist yet.  And also there are quite a few visual connotations that pop into one's head when they hear, "minimalist."  Be honest, you see blank, white walls, and flat surfaced tables with nothing on them, don't you? I don't think I'm that kind of minimalist.  If I had to categorize myself, my style of minimalism is more of a, "things I use, but not much more" minimalism.  Does that make sense? I mean I do have STUFF.  But I also have blank areas too!  It's a balance that is working for me, but I keep getting rid of more and more so in the end who knows where it will end up.

I don't want to jump on a soapbox and act like I've got the ONLY right answers. But gosh... there aren't that many people out there saying, "Uh hey... let's stop the madness and do life a little different, hmm?" I like those ones who are.  Y'all got it going on, and I'm joining your minimalist teams! I do also think there is a reason people are flipping out over books about "magic & tidying up"....  People want less to manage, and too much stuff rarely sparks any long term joy. We all know this deep down.  We crave spaces in our lives, homes, schedules and hearts.  It's not unachievable either.

Today I'm not sharing photos.  But I will.  Oh I will!  I would like to take you room by room, and talk about what works, what didn't, what I changed, what stayed the same, and what I plan to do as we prepare for our downsize to a condo in a couple short years.  I might be irregular on blog scheduling until summer is over, but if you don't want to miss any, you can always subscribe in your email.  And if you know anyone who is moving into a more minimalistic lifestyle, I would love to "meet" them, so please feel free to share with me in comments!

XOXO
Sasha

14 comments:

  1. You know I'm a huge fan of your approach and what I appreciate MOSTEST about how you've shared your journey is that you've shared YOUR journey. Not only some immaculate end result or a container store picture with "photo credit" - a home with people living in it, people coming into it, etc. For those of us that have followed you for a long time the consistency transparency into your process is refreshing (if I can speak for others, lol!) I've followed & unfollowed too many accounts where the pictures are so static as if they're just staged spaces while your feel full of life. Keep at it Sasha! You really are inspirational.

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    1. Oh my word this made my whole day. Thank you!! I've felt the same out there with the overstaging. Not that I've never been guilty of staging something for a photo but I always kind of cringe... real life is pretty enough and I've found that through trial and error to be honest. Thank you for your sweet comment!

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  2. Ditto on Shannon's comment! (See how I can be minimalist in my comment? haha). Anyway, I dream of downsizing but my husband is resistant. We have narrowed down his concern to "where will the kids and their future families stay when they visit us?" I would love to hear your thoughts on that as you share your downsizing journey. My ideal future house will have a master bedroom on the first floor, and indeed everything we need to live will be on the first floor. IF there is a second floor, I want to be able to close it off most of the time, and then open it when guests come to stay.
    Love following you, especially on the blog and Instagram!

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    1. haha I love it!! Oh and this downsizing consideration is huge. In fact, I'll probably talk about it more in future blogs, but I hesitate because my reasons for the way I feel have to do with extended family and I want to be careful not to call anyone out... though it probably can't be helped to some extent. My nutshell answer for our family was this.. We always hosted when kids were small. Many reasons for it, but we were the house. I remember being the house when I was growing up as well and my mom hosting everything. As I look forward, I want to make life easy for my own kids when they are grown and go to them... with little ones involved, parents get all stressed and like to be home for naps and normalcy and I want to just come into that world they are in and help where they are, rather than have a big empty house that gets used once a year at Christmas, maybe. There is so much more to this answer, but having a guest room for so long was what solidified me in this... it was such a WASTE! Besides, if my kids need to come and stay near us, I'd like to do what I LONGED for when I was a young mom... put them up in a nearby hotel for a blessed retreat, scoop up whatever kiddos they have and make memories with the littles while giving my kids a break. I would have killed for that!!! Mostly, just being adaptable and realizing that I can live large in a small space and live pretty small in a large space... it's all in my mindset. (Does that make sense?) Getting a hubby on board though... not always an easy task. What a sweet generous heart he must have to even be thinking ahead this way!

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  3. Amen! I have carted off so many carloads of stuff, what was I thinking? I can breathe easier and feel much less anxiety having less. Thanks for sharing!

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  4. I agree about social media too. I have been more selective and have unfollowed many. Ha, but I am always finding new accounts to follow! :D I am an organized person, but I remember the quote on flylady (is that what it was called? :/ ) "you can't organize clutter." I have a few spots of clutter I need to work on!! Thanks for the inspiration. :)

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  5. You are so right about social media!! Although I absolutely LOVE those homes and their decor, it does always leave me wanting more.....er less. I am completely pulled in and bound up by the trends, albeit I cannot afford any of it and don't really shop any more, but as soon as I pull into the parking lot of Target, the triggers start firing off in my brain!! It's crazy! Shopping is such an addiction, the need is so strong. Like I said, I can't afford it and don't shop but the battle in my mind is intense. Anyway, there are still six of us living at home and we have a large home, I don't know where to start. I've purged a lot over the years and still have 3 packed garages and a full house! I crave minimalism but love stuff! I covet (I know, it's bad) your home and simplicity. Gosh I wish I could fly you across country to help me!!!! As always, I love your inspiration and example <3

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    1. I know exactly what you are talking about! And yes the struggle is so real in our country. I hope this series will encourage and inspire you as I work my way through it. You're not alone!

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  6. Sasha,
    I love this post! For years you have inspired me and you did it once again! I woke up this morning and pulled everything out of my food pantry and for the first time since we moved into this house 13 years ago, I am painting and installing new shelving! My husband always says that our split level is too small but I tell him we just have too many things! I wish you lived closer, you are such an inspiration in so many ways! XO Kerri

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    1. Oh girl that's awesome to hear!! I'm excited to hear feedback as we all work our way through this... I think it's a topic people are deep down longing to plunge into!

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  7. Love this! Months ago I narrowed down my instagram list (no more overdecorated spaces) to these more minimal spaces: Between You and Me, Brittany York, Country Road Living, Farm Fresh Homestead, Farmhouse on Boone, LEMONADE MAKIN MAMA, Life on the Shady Grove, The Faux Martha, The White Farmhouse, and The.White.Farmhouse. I spend less time on social media and look at homes that are beautiful and REAL.

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  8. Here too girl!! Those are some of my fave feeds as well.

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  9. Sasha,
    Thank you for sharing. I am so excited to read and see how you have downsized in your home! Please share more. I am on a journey to have less “ things” also! As a breast cancer survivor I want to invest more time with my kids and family rather than keeping up with stuff. Memories last a lifetime not stuff! I’ve always enjoyed your blog and advice I just adore you! Blessings to you and your family. Looking forward to hearing and seeing more tips on how I can continue to simplify my life for the better.

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