Sunday, December 2, 2018

My heart, this holiday


I've been having so much fun blogging lately, though I may slow down some this week, as it is a wild one with four days of work.  Plus, I'm photographing my coworkers homes for our company Instagram home tours, both kids have practice + two meets each, for bowling and swim, OF COURSE ON THE SAME DAYS, and then Adrain and I fly out for his company Christmas party over the weekend. (Eeep… that's going to be SO much fun. Any time cocktail dresses and historic hotels are involved, it's got to be FUN!)  (If you want to keep up, you know I'll be posting lots over on Instagram @lemonademakinmama  and I'd love for you to come follow and say hi!)

Today, I wanted to share something that just occurred to me late last week.  I shared this on IG, but it was just a snippet of my heart.  I've been sharing lots about my minimalism journey (and if you doubt that I've changed, all it takes is a quick scroll through my archived posts to see how this home has simplified over the years! ha!).  I've shared that I've been living the keto lifestyle as well.  This past week, I was chatting with someone about self-care.  Mostly, what I used to think it was, and what it actually is.  I used to think of it more as indulging myself. Whatever the topic may be, just general indulgence.  Like, a constant, "treat yo self" attitude. Those years of my daddy's illness were really hard on me, and I pulled way back from social media to cope.  I still feel sad about closing my shop and old IG account but I just needed that space and it was the right thing for me at the time. Anyway, when he died last October, and I saw tangibly that you take nothing with you, it changed me at my core and I love who this girl in front of you is becoming. Flawed and broken, yes...  but joy FILLED.  I think that's because I began buckling down intensely on actual, GOOD self care.  Editing my life, all parts of it, embracing true minimalism in the ways that I approach decorating, storing things, clothing, grocery shopping, back stocking of things, and even food.  I got serious about the keto diet and all of these life edits helped me grieve and find ME again.  

All this to say, that this is my story right now, and I feel really strongly that someone out there needs to hear this encouragement, for their own holiday season.  Don't mistake indulgence for self-care, it seldom is.  But do find what your focus should be and let that guide you.  For me, keto and minimalism have changed my life, because it really comes down to taking what God has given me charge over and honoring Him with the choices I make.... which is the best self-care any of us can do.

9 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing Sasha, As I've mentioned before my mother has Alzheimer's and I'm her caregiver. It's a tough one to navigate, but God! I do it because of the loving mother she once was and thankfully she has a good attitude most days (small victories). I needed to know that there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I've been on keto and IF for a year and a half, but really need to focus on the minimalist lifestyle for my home. I'm over whelmed and fail more than I like to admit. Thanks to a great group of gals pals I'm able to laugh at it all. Thanks for sharing and Merry Christmas! Kristie

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    1. Oh I'm so sorry. It is such an all consuming season and I'm so glad you've got supportive friends. Makes all the difference! XOXO

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  2. So glad you have found your joyful place, enjoy!

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    1. Me too girl. Feels like it took years to find it again. Sigh.. seasons. XOXO

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  3. I don't see any recent post on your Instagram account. Would love to follow.

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  4. Yes!! There is so much talk nowadays about "treat yourself" and "indulgence = self-care"...but for me, self care - real, authentic self care - is not just the fun, fluffy stuff, but the tedious, necessary stuff (like paying bills, scheduling routine doctor appointments) that ultimately keeps me healthy in all senses of the word. In my work, we talk about it as the difference between wellness (i.e. the current trendy self-care) and well-being.

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    1. Oh I lOVE that... such a good thing to ponder. Thanks for sharing.

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